October 6, 2018 0 Comments Thoughts and Feelings Working in Alberta

Society’s Frown to Ambition

We’re expected to be like the others, not above the others.

When I was younger, I’d get ridicule for wanting to become something better everyday. I was expected to be like everybody else:

But what about your friends? What about everybody else? You’re still young. Young people have fun, and do this, and do that. Because that’s what they are doing, you should be doing it too.

To want more, was perceived to sin:

Just be grateful. Look at how the poor children starving in the world. Be lucky you’re still working, and not that father of a family who has been on EI for 6 months.

To want to advance based on merit and one’s own timeline, rather than based on seniority and a society-dictated timeline, was also frowned upon:

You’ve only been here for a couple months. They’ve been here and doing it for a lot longer. Those people worked their way up and put their time in. What kind of guy [in his early 20s] needs a Porsche? You have 2 cars, 2 homes! Get out of here.

Frequently throughout your life, you’re frowned upon for wanting to be something other than an employee. You’re often asked:

What do you want to be when you’re older? If you know and can do this and that, then you’ll always have work. If you have these characteristics, then companies will fight to hire you.

The Myth of Women who seek Ambitious Men

It’s commonly believed that women who just want men who are attractive and have money. But the ones who can actually stay with one, are more rare. Few actually truly value the blood, sweat, and tears it takes somebody to become what they like to see. Many women will just pick the loser: the one who is not a nice guy, not well off, not good looking. Many women will downright insult your pride, and pick the loser over you. Some women downright believe they are performing an act of charity to put you down. They’ll rub it in your face gladly. Why? because it’s easier.